You've heard so many stories of friends hurting each other and you have made up your mind, that you'll never have friends.
You'll rather just be friends with your family members. Right?
News flash! They 👏 will 👏hurt👏 you 👏too👏
Okay, Tomi what do I do? I am scared!
Now let me step in.
Rule one!
Be ready to be hurt.
What? Tomi did you just say that?
Well, yes I did. I'm sorry.
At one point or the other, people will hurt you. If they haven't yet, keep breathing, that day is coming.
I am not a prophetess of doom, that's mean! But guarding your heart from being broken is the easiest way to break it.
I sound like a motivational speaker right now.
Anyway, that settled, lets go to the next rule.
Rule 2.
Be a friend!
I'm serious, please don't tune off yet.
I know you want friends, and here I am asking you to be a friend. Sigh. But how?
First, it starts with a smile. Nobody talks to a strong faced girl / guy. Well, not me!
How about starting with the person right next to you?
That person the ushers sit you beside in church.
After service, smile and introduce yourself. Pay a honest compliment! If you like their shoes or their perfume, say it with all honesty.
Rule 3
Add value!
Nobody likes a parasite. Ouch! That hurt! But it's true.
Okay, so Tomi, how do I add value?
Let's settle something, by adding value, I'm not even talking about money. Maybe that is part of it.
How about you share a book you are currently reading, that you know will be of value to that friend?
Okay, maybe you don't read books.
How about promoting what the person does? Ask for what they do and actually share it with your network.
This always works!
Don't ask me how I found out, just try it!
Do you have more? Please, please, leave a comment.
I love you. I'm serious.
I do.
